Attachment Styles Viewed Through Biological Drivers of Sensory Overload and Anxiety

Attachment Styles are often viewed through the lens of some kind of childhood trauma.

I'm not saying that is invalid --- BUT I am saying I think the challenges of various NEURO-DEVELOPMENTAL DISORDERS do make relationships hard for NEURO-DIVERSE people --- who tend to be people with a lot of SENSORY OVERLOAD and ANXIETY.

​Conclusion:   Difficulty in emotion regulation and insecure-avoidant attachment styles were more common in untreated adolescents with ADHD.

​The study findings support the view that ADHD is a heterogeneous condition and that insecure attachment style and emotional regulation should be considered in the assessment and treatment of ADHD

Emotional regulation and attachment style in previously untreated adolescents with attention deficit and hyperactivity disorder


In Pop Psychology, "ATTACHED" to this "IDEA" of "ATTACHMENT STYLES" is this notion that  "Oh, you're just overlooking and rejecting perfectly 'WARM' partners and everything would be 'GREAT' if you could just 'LOOSEN UP'  and 'RELAX.'   "

When we talk about COMPATIBILITY --- we're often talking about some kind of SHARED INTEREST.

Two of the things that Youtuber Paul points out on his channel Asperger's from the Inside:

• You tend NOT to have the same interests as other people, and
• There is a lot of "INVISIBLE STRUGGLE" ---- Paul likens it to a DUCK PADDLING UNDER WATER --- you can't see it --- BUT there is A LOT going on UNDERNEATH THE SURFACE.

I think one of the reasons NEURO-DIVERSE people don't have the same interests is because at least some of them  have been seeking out a lot of KNOWLEDGE and DISCIPLINES such as MUSIC,  SCIENCE, HISTORY,  ART, etc.

• --- to CALM some pretty CONSTANT ANXIETY ---that may be the result of some pretty CONSTANT SENSORY OVERLOAD.

So if you do manage to find your "INTELLECTUAL MATCH" ------ you've often also met your MATCH in SENSORY OVERLOAD and ANXIETY.

​There's a reason why Leonard Cohen's Hallelujah is so popular and unfortunately where a lot of NEURO-DIVERSE people find themselves in relationships.

In one of the videos I posted on DYSLEXIA and ADHD --- the psychologist makes the CRUCIAL POINT that AWARNESS is KEY --- AWARENESS makes things "BETTER ALREADY."  

With regard to AWARENESS --- Neuro-Diverse people are at significantly increased risk of PSYCHIATRIC DISORDERS.

I think if Mental Health Professionals are MORE AWARE that some to many of their clients are:

• NEURO-DIVERSE,
• They are pretty close to their LIMITS ALL THE TIME --- because their brains are so HYPER-CONNECTED
• This is being CONTINUALLY FUELED by SENSORY PROCESSING challenges that are also fueling a lot of ANXIETY
• This is impacting every area of their lives --- certainly WORK and LOVE.

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That's going to lead to greater AWARENESS in their patients --- it's not going to be perfect BUT it could be "BETTER ALREADY."

Steph Anya, LMFT explains "Attachment Styles"

Leonard Cohen --- Hallelujah

Understood:  Thriving with Learning Differences

AWARENESS IS KEY.

Asperger's from the Inside
High Functioning Autism --- It's NOT what you think

 Lex Morningstar 
What Happened to the Lost Generation of Women with Undiagnosed ADHD?

I can tell you from my perspective --- IT WASN'T GOOD.

A lot of people --- certainly older people who may have done well in school --- did NOT get that diagnosis of a DEVELOPMENTAL DISORDER because organizational issues, etc. were fairly well MASKED.

Further, they may very well have married someone in a similar situation.

When it comes to Neuro-Diversity --- If all you know is the GOOD STUFF --- YOU DON'T KNOW ENOUGH.

If all you know is the BAD STUFF --- YOU DON'T KNOW ENOUGH.

AWARENESS IS KEY --- and it MIGHT improve those ATTACHMENT STYLES.