Neuro-Diversity, different limits & transitions

Conjecture

• Awareness of DIFFERENT LIMITS
  • "Hyper-Focusing" --- I think "hyper-focusing" is ADAPTIVE to the demands of greater SENSORY PROCESSING --- 
    • If I'm "hyper-focusing" ---- it actually costs me a lot less ENERGY than SWITCHING BETWEEN MULTIPLE Tasks

 

• There are a lot of MULTIPLE TASKS that people in a MARRIAGE or FAMILY need accomplished every day.

 

• That is a BIG SUBJECT of NEGOTIATION in any relationship but in a relationship in which one or both partners have ADHD, Autism, and/or are Gifted, etc. ---It is going to be MORE COMPLEX.  
  

Asperger's from the Inside

Paul discusses the surprisingly complicated issue of TRANSITIONS.

This ISSUE of TRANSITIONING from one gear to another turns out not just to be SURPRISING but I would say quite SERIOUS.

Paul is saying the ineffective management of TRANSITIONS leads to BURNOUT and I would say MULTIPLE or SERIOUS BURNOUTS lead to BREAKDOWN.

Paul is someone who as child was identified as "Gifted" BUT as an ADULT got a late diagnosis of "Asperger's" ---- and he probably is more "STEREOTYPICAL" for that "CATEGORY" ---

• in some respects
• BUT he is going to great lengths to try to EXPLAIN Himself to Himself and Others, and
• to have better relationships by more clearly UNDERSTANDING and ARTICULATING his needs ---
  • which most people DON'T UNDERSTAND and that's often including the person.

 

• One of the CONCERNS around significant "Hyper-Focusing" or "Mono-Tasking" is that ---
  • this is INCONSIDERATE of the NEEDS of OTHERS in your LIFE.

One of the MANY DOUBLE BINDS or CATCH-22s for many Neuro-Diverse people is that "Hyper-Focusing" is helping to manage a quite UNWIELDY SENSORY LOAD that if not properly managed can lead to BOTH ------

• Mental Health Problems and
• Physical Health Problems such as:
  • gut problems 
  • migraines, and/or
  • chronic disease related to INFLAMMATION
  • etc.

If you have 2 "Gifted" "Neuro-Diverse" people heading up the family ---- they may have quite UNREALISTIC EXPECTATIONS of themselves and of each other.

For so many people, that "Giftedness" turned out a lot differently than what we thought ---- and we can be very hard on ourselves and those around us.

Further, managing this does require some CONSCIOUS EFFORT --- and for so many GIFTED NEURO-DIVERSE people --- they are learning all this while they are trying to use INACCURATE MAPS.

I personally think these issues are so consequential to the health and well being of Neuro-Diverse people, their relationships and their families --- that we need to move them way up on the PRIORITY LIST.

Now as the population becomes more Neuro-Diverse with greater levels of Neuro-Developmental Inflammation --- those numbers are driving change whether its GLUTEN FREE DIETS or something else

• Neuro-Diverse people are having to WORK HARDER and MORE CONSCIOUSLY to manage their relationships to other people and their relationships to physical and social environments. 

 

• This is also DRIVING THE NEED FOR PRECISION MEDICINE.  

I think MORE HARMONIOUS RELATIONSHIPS are absolutely doable BUT that requires UNDERSTANDING OURSELVES and OTHERS.

• A big part of that in 2022 is understanding Differences in Sensory Processing ---
• How to get the "GIFTS" without Burning Out or Breaking Down Ourselves or Others.