Neuro-Diverse Relationships are Hard Work--- You Are Carrying A Heavy Load for An Ignorant Society

Conjecture

• LGBTQ+  and Heterosexuality are often (not always) something you are aware of from a young age.
  • I didn't just wake up one morning and decide I was HETEROSEXUAL --- I can remember at 3 having a crush on the 4-year neighbor boy and and he was paying much more attention to Lissa --- I'm still working on forgiving Lissa.
    • Now, like a lot of things --- not everybody may fit this mold.

 

• When we talk about Neuro-Diversity we're talking about a mix of HETEROSEXUAL and LGBTQ+ folks who UNLIKE THEIR SEXUALITY ----
  • Came to find out about their NEURO-DIVERSITY --- sometimes not until they were ADULTS.
    • Many people don't have a LABEL or a CATEGORY however imperfect to try understand the perplexing mix of often HIGH SUBSTANTIVE STRENGTHS and EXECUTIVE FUNCTIONING CHALLENGES. 

 

• Further, the Society and Our Mental Health Profession aren't very good at understanding NEURO-DIVERSITY either.
  • Progress is being made -- slowly.
  • Everyone's doing the best they can --- but I'm pretty pissed about being asked to "PAY OUT OF NETWORK" for the STANDARD OF CARE THAT IS REALLY OUT THERE.*

 

• For Neuro-Diverse people, Families and the Societies it's coming to EMBRACE both the HIGH STRENGTHS --- AND --- THE EXECUTIVE FUNCTIONING CHALLENGES.
  • It has IMPLICATIONS in BOTH AREAS.
  • Further, it has IDIOSYNCRATIC IMPLICATIONS in both areas.

 

• If we're not BUDGETING THE TIME & ENERGY to UNDERSTAND --- AND ---- ACCOMMODATE/WORK AROUND these IDIOSYNCRATIC DIFFERENCES ---
  • We will be sorry.

 

• The more we are able to do this as a SOCIETY, get some ROUGH TEMPLATES to address HIGH STRENGTHS and EXECUTIVE FUNCTIONING CHALLENGES--- the easier this is going to be for everyone. 
  

Neurodivergent Rebel
Setting & Maintaining Boundaries when You are Autistic or Neurodivergent

[Now, I think "BOUNDARIES" are important for understanding the CONTOURS of Solutions --- to get to 3rd Alternatives.

Further, if you're in a Relationship and you are Neuro-Diverse --- I think there is a high likelihood that the other person is also Neuro-Diverse --- and they will be wanting/needing to set their own idiosyncratic boundaries.

I don't think this is just about Neuro-Typical vs. Neuro-Diverse.