Categories & Neuro-Diverse Relationships

Val's Take/Conjecture

• Myers-Briggs Personality Categories are even less accurate than the DSM, but they do give us a Vocabulary to talk about personality traits --- even if it is not wholly accurate.​
• ​It's really the same kind of thing as "The 4 Humors" or "The 5 Elements of Chinese Medicine" --- create a limited number of categories and sort an over-whelming amount of information into these more manageable categories.

I think the Bottom Line is that Neuro-Diverse people are having to work harder at relationships because they and often their partners are more idiosyncratic AND we often have less energy to manage that complexity.​

• ​Also, we're often not just trying to manage this complexity in our personal lives --- but also our work lives.

These Personality Categories at least in part are meant to get us out of "Unpredictable Chronic Stress"

• ​Maybe it's still "Chronic Stress" --- but it's "Predictable."
• The problem arises if the Categories aren't that accurate ---- their predictive powers are often not accurate either.

​Ella Henderson
Hard Work

This is one of my very favorite songs and to me Ella Henderson NAILED IT --- of course, her partner may feel like Ella is HARD WORK, too --- 99% of the time.

Frank James
Why INFJ Ruins Relationships

James makes the point that people can throw you a curve ball and not fit into your pattern or category.